Category: boundaries
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When You’re the First in Your Family to Go to Therapy
You can love your family, appreciate everything they’ve done for you, and still need a space to work through what you’ve experienced. “I haven’t told my family I’m in therapy.” My client paused before continuing. “I don’t think they’d understand. They’d probably ask me what I have to complain about. My parents worked so hard…
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How Latino Culture Can Impact Healing From Trauma and Abuse
“I don’t know if what happened to me was actually abuse.” My client looked down as she said this. We had been talking about her childhood and some of the experiences she was still carrying into adulthood. She described being criticized, controlled, and frequently made responsible for her parents’ emotions. She had spent years believing…
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Why Some Friendships Feel One-Sided
The article addresses the emotional struggles of individuals who feel they are constantly maintaining friend relationships alone. It highlights the importance of mutual effort, boundaries, and reciprocity in friendships. Additionally, it encourages readers to reflect on their roles and patterns, emphasizing that healthy relationships allow for authenticity and growth.
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Discipline vs. Capacity: What I Teach Clients About Burnout, Productivity, and Emotional Exhaustion
Many individuals mistakenly equate their struggles with productivity to a lack of discipline rather than recognizing a potential capacity issue. This insight can reshape their approach to burnout and mental health. By understanding the distinction between discipline and emotional capacity, individuals can foster healthier habits, reduce stress, and prioritize self-care.
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When Keeping the Peace Meant Losing Yourself
The content discusses the journey of individuals, particularly in Latino families, who have learned to prioritize others’ emotions over their own. It illustrates how this habit, while adaptive in childhood, can lead to exhaustion and guilt in adulthood. Ultimately, it encourages breaking this pattern and nurturing one’s own emotional needs to achieve a healthier balance.
